With the days of having hundreds of Facebook “friends” upon us, real friendships built on respect, a common bond, and shared memories seem to be few and far between in the modern world. We can instantly connect with anyone online, but does that make them a tried and true friend?
On the other hand, the friends you thought you could count on in real life can turn out to be just as distant, flaky, and unreliable as people you’ve connected within the cyber world. Studies show that even if people have thousands of Facebook friends, they usually only maintain close relationships with a few people in real life.
So, how can you make sure that these friendships you have invested so much emotionally are actually authentic?
11 Signs of A True Friendship
1. THEY ACCEPT EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU, INCLUDING YOUR FLAWS.
They don’t want to change you. In fact, true friendships mean they embrace everything about you, from your quirks and flaws to your best personality traits. That doesn’t mean they have to particularly like or agree with everything you say and do, but they don’t bash you or try to alter your personality, either. You feel like you can breathe a big sigh of relief around them. That’s because in a sea of billions of people, you’ve found one person who sees the positive things about you even when you don’t see them yourself.
2. THEY STICK WITH YOU THROUGH BOTH THE GOOD AND BAD TIMES.
This one probably best distinguishes a fake friend from a real one; in hard times, a true friend would never dream of leaving you in the shadows alone. Instead, they offer to help you however they can, and bring you back into the light again. Fake friends often bail on you because they only wanted to stick around when things went well for you, and felt like helping you through your problems was a burden for them.
Consider my latest tweet from this morning;
3. THEY ARE HAPPY FOR YOUR SUCCESSES AND CONGRATULATE YOU WHEN YOU REACH A NEW GOAL.
Fake friends feel jealous and contemptuous when you achieve something exciting in your life, but true friends will celebrate your accomplishments with you. To know if you’re dealing with an authentic friendship or not, just notice who sticks around when you reach new heights in your life. Some people will try to tear you down, but the real friends in your life will feel happy for you.
4. YOU FEEL TOTALLY COMFORTABLE AROUND THEM, AND THEY PROBABLY KNOW THINGS ABOUT YOU THAT MANY OTHERS DON’T.
They know your best-kept secrets, your wildest dreams, and the unique quirks that you only share with people you feel most at ease around. Plus, they know all the details about your love life, your most cherished childhood memories, and all those embarrassing stories that you wouldn’t share with just anyone. They want to know you to your core, not just on the surface. This separates a true friend from a fake one in many ways.