5. TRUE FRIENDSHIPS MEET YOU HALFWAY – THEY DON’T EXPECT YOU TO ALWAYS BE THE ONE TO REACH OUT TO THEM.
You don’t have to call or text every time you want to meet up. That’s because they also show interest in hanging out with you, and they’ll contact you often to catch up. You don’t feel like you have to chase them in order to keep them in your life – they put equal effort into your friendship, and make time to see you. They don’t only talk to you when it’s convenient; they reach out to you because they truly care about you as a friend and want you in their life.
6. THEY MAKE YOU FEEL HAPPIER AND MORE ALIVE, NOT DRAINED AND STRESSED.
After seeing them, you feel more rejuvenated, vibrant, and excited about life, not the opposite. Authentic friendships will be a perfect energetic match between two people; otherwise, one person will be giving the other one energy, which means that you have an energy vampire on your hands. To know if you have a true friendship with someone, just pay attention to how you feel after meeting up with them. A real friend will make you feel good about yourself and life, not depressed and uninspired.
7. THEY TELL YOU THE TRUTH ABOUT THINGS, EVEN IF YOU MAY NOT WANT TO HEAR IT.
Authentic friends tell you what you want to hear; they never sugarcoat anything just to appease you. They tell you the truth, even if it may hurt. And, you’ve learned to appreciate this, because not many other people in your life will cut to the chase and tell it like it is. They tell you the truth not to cut you down, but to help you make the right choices in your life and become a better person because of this.
8. THEY DON’T BLOW THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE – THEY FORGIVE YOU.
Don’t expect perfection from true friendships–and they won’t expect it from you. Plus, you don’t feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them just to gain their approval. They know that you will slip up from time to time, and you don’t have to give a long apology. They just put it behind them and know that you have good intentions despite whatever mistakes you might make.
9. REAL FRIENDSHIPS MEAN THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK.
Real friends NEVER gossip about you when you leave the room. Indeed, they act like an adult and confront you personally if they need to talk to you. They respect you enough to not spread rumors and tarnish your reputation behind your back; they would rather smooth things over with you and have a rational discussion face-to-face.
10. THEY ALLOW YOU TO HAVE OTHER FRIENDSHIPS WITHOUT GETTING JEALOUS AND POSSESSIVE.
Real friends feel confident enough in your friendship that they don’t have to resort to jealousy and trying to control your life. They give you the freedom to pursue other friendships and activities in your life because they know that your friendship is rock solid. They realize that you don’t have to be in their company 24/7 in order to validate the friendship.
11. YOU HAVE SO MANY INSIDE JOKES AND FUNNY MEMORIES WITH THEM THAT YOU’VE LOST COUNT.
You have such a close friendship with them that you’ve spent countless hours together just being silly and laughing about nothing, and in turn, you’ve created so many unforgettable memories that will last a lifetime.
FINAL THOUGHTS ON FOSTERING TRUE FRIENDSHIPS
Like any relationship, friendships take an investment of your time and caring. However, the real sign that tells you that you have a friend for life is when you find that you actually enjoy that time spent and look forward to the next time you connect.